Thursday, November 27, 2014

A Thanksgiving Memory

I hope this holiday finds you surrounded by family and friends, making memories that will be shared  in the future at tables in places that can't even be imagined now. I also hope, that in the course of this busy day, you'll be able to lend a thought or two to those who are now gone but once occupied places at your table and in your heart. Memory is a funny thing, and good or bad, we tend to magnify it as we get older. I am of an age where mine have begun to glow with the brightness and clarity of a nova and I've learned to surrender to that light. I view memory as a scrapbook of the mind whose  pages turn when a fleeting thought moves to the frontal lobes and demands I give it the attention it thinks it deserves. I find myself in the throes of memory this Thanksgiving and my thoughts are with the people with whom I spent a very special day. I was four years old at the time and we spent much of the day in a basement having a communal feast.

I lived in a planned community of townhouses that were built around  central courtyards. There were four buildings per courtyard and each unit in the building had 4 four duplex and 2 garden apartments. A large laundry and storage area separated the garden apartments which were several feet below street level. Hannie and Mrs P lived in the duplex units to the left of the storage area and my parents and Anita lived in the ones to the right. Both garden apartments were occupied by nurses who were known in the community as the  "unclaimed treasures". Wartime rationing was severe in 1944 and at some point the families decided to pool ration stamps and have a communal celebration in the basement. As it happened, Thanksgiving that year turned out to be a strictly female affair.

Max, Hannie's husband, was with in the JAG corp in Washington, Anita's husband was in the South Pacific, and Paul, Mrs. P's husband was  training radio operators at Scott Air Force Base. My dad was not in the military, but he was an air raid warden whose duties also included emergency management. It  was  a commitment my mother never quite understood. She couldn't picture an air raid in the middle of the country, much less a raid on the south side of Chicago. Her feelings aside, as head of the district he could not absent himself on Thanksgiving Day, so he, too, would miss the feast.

Tasks for the party were pretty much equally divided. Mrs. P was in charge of general cleanup, decoration and, because she was the best baker,  all of the desserts. That meant that several weeks worth of  egg, sugar and butter rations were sent her way, but it also meant she had to figure out how to clean the basement and make it appear, if not festive, at least clean.  She did it the old-fashioned way and scrubbed the floors on her hands and knees till the place smelled like Murphy's Oil soap. Paper decorations were out of the question, so she rehung the clothes lines and used sheets to cover the unsightly walls. She also made sure the old starch stove was functioning and would be able to keep the food warm. In addition to cleaning, she managed to make a huge tray of apple slices, a pumpkin pie, a Swedish butter cake and  cupcakes for the children. I got to spoon batter into the cupcake pans.

Hannie was in charge of bread and rolls and making stuffing for the bird. She sent the stuffing on to Anita who actually roasted the turkey. Back in the day, birds were stuffed and dressing on the side was unheard of.  To this day,  the thought of Hannie's bread brings tears to my eyes.  Save for my mom, whose forte was not the kitchen,  I  grew up surrounded by wonderful cooks, and the ventilation in our complex directed  all cooking odors to the basement. On Thanksgiving Day, the co-mingled aromas of turkey and yeast and apples and cinnamon would make even  Lucullas weep. Hannie made her famous potato bread, as well as cloverleaf rolls and cinnamon buns for our dinner. I got to help knead the bread.

Anita's turkey was delicious and I was especially proud of it because I had picked it out. We had a poultry store that kept live birds and slaughtered them as needed. The place was rank and  you could smell it a mile away. Anita took me with her to buy the bird and taught me how to remove pin feathers once we were home. I also got to put Hannie's stuffing into the turkey and couldn't help but think how lucky these grown-ups were to have me around. They couldn't do Thanksgiving dinner without my help.

My mother was in charge of the vegetables and sundry sides. This was trickier than you might think. Fresh vegetables were not available and you had to be pretty clever to disguise the taste of the stuff that came in a can. Mom made scalloped corn, braised celery and put together a really nice mac' and cheese casserole, as well as mashed potatoes. I helped make the scalloped corn and got to peel a few of the potatoes. A first!

Bridge tables and chairs were moved to the basement early on Thanksgiving morning and thanks to Mrs. P they had  starched tablecloths and were properly set for a party. The morning was spent going from one kitchen to another to see what was going on and generally getting underfoot. We ate in the early afternoon and it was a wonderful day. Not just because of the food. These women supported each other throughout the war and formed a band that was incredibly tight. They were the the first single moms and they made do, even producing an odd miracle every now and then. They certainly mastered the art of  making something from nothing and they did it with grace and humor and set an example that I have never forgotten. I am thankful that these women have been part of my life and I hope that wherever they are they can sense that and know they have become a part of me. A Happy Thanksgiving to them and to all of you.


From the Kitchen said...

What a nice surprise your post is this morning. I not only enjoyed hearing about that wonderfully shared Thanksgiving of your childhood, but have been set to thinking about the Thanksgivings of my past.

May your day fit perfectly into your memory bank!


Susan Sevig said...

What a beautiful memory, Mary. I felt I was right there with you, so many years ago. Thank you for sharing and wishing you a very Happy Thanksgiving today.

June said...

Thank you for sharing your memories as they brought some of my own to mind. Thank you also for sharing your talents with all of us on a daily basis and happy Thanksgiving to you and yours. Warm regards.

Kath said...

What a lovely post about your Thanksgiving in 1944, Mary! It must have been difficult for the women to celebrate without their husbands. I admire their strength to give an all-out effort to have a real feast and to give a 4-year-old girl a wonderful memory. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!

Meredith Roark Childress said...

Thank you for a story of true meaning from your past, reminding me of the strength of the human spirit. Your blog is a blessing for us all and I'm thankful for it, especially on this day. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family, Mary!

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